Stand tall and be fearless

Well I have always wondered what could be the greatest thing a person could ask for - good health, wealth, a happy family? What has always seemed more important to me than all of these is the strength to endure. The man who has the strength to endure knows that every good/bad thing that happens to him is just a phase and which would be over soon. The power of being able to get detached is very well known to him and this power gives him the strength to keep calm and just take whatever happens as a phase. We have been given this life to understand the essence of existence. Life would be incomplete without disappointments. It is a necessity which we all need. The disappointments and challenges that life gives us eventually makes us a stronger person and also gives us the strength to endure. A man who has not endured enough has not ever known the real taste of success.

I remember I had this maths tuition teacher who I used to go to when I was in class 7-9. Initially I used to feel petrified of the sums that he used to give me. But now when I think about it what I realize is that whatever mathematics I am able to do now is all because of that man. Had he not made me learn that way then, I would not have been able to become what I am today. So the endurance has reaped fruits.

Think of a situation where a 12 year old boy is suffering from cancer. His mother knows that a part of her wont be there anymore within few months. There is nothing she can do to stop this happen. There is no doctor she can go to and pay loads to save her only child. What she only knows is her son would leave her soon and she has to endure this. This lady only needs the strength to endure and make herself understand that his son no matter what would always remain with her. Her son could never be snatched away from her even though the physical presence would not be there. The strength to endure thus becomes the greatest necessity.

“First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, and then you win.”

There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won’t anymore, and who always will. So don’t worry about people from your past, there’s a reason why they didn’t make it to your future. Well, each one of us faces situations wherein people who we considered to be friends turn out to be complete strangers. They start ignoring you and sometimes even refuse to recognize you. You might not even sometimes be able to find a reason behind it. But what really one should do when he feels tangled in these kind of situations? I searched for some Yahoo answers and got replies like the ones given below:-

1. 
   Honestly if they were your friends they wouldn't be doing this. Even if you didn't do anything they may still think of a way to say what you did. I have had trouble with my friends all throughout high school. But I got over it because I knew that I would get over it. Sure there are sometimes when I feel lonely but you have to find the people that you always want to tell things to. And it obvious that these people aren't it. I am going to tell you life goes on.You'll be fine. You'll get over it eventually, and it'll make you a better person because of it. Because you will try and find the right people to be friends with. It takes time, but always remember, if you can find one good friend in life who you can tell anything to, you're so lucky. Just remember it'll take time. And trust me you'll be fine I promise.
2. 
   i have your problem too, but i have 2 ppl i can talk to
   i dont talk to my friends who ignore me
   if they ignore me, i ignore them.
   remember, treat people the way you want to be treated.
   if they ignore you, ignore them back 
   just make new friends even tho its hard
   the 2 ppl i talk to are my new friends
3. 
   People are like that. Trust me, we've all been there and done that. My advice to you is to ignore them back. If they ever try to talk to you just don't talk to them. Don't make it seem like you're desperate. In a way to make new friends, try to pen-pal someone online. There's a great website if you just search "pen-pal for kids". Also, sit with someone new at the lunch table. Try to blend in. That way if your new friends dump you, you can always say you have friends with your other pen-pals around the world. Hope this helps!
4. 
   Stand up to them and ask them what the problem is. When friends ignore you, I personally think it's immature because you do have the right to know what is going on.
   
   If they don't want to tell you, well...find some new friends. Easier said than done, but you don't deserve people like that and time is too short to mess around worrying about people like that. 
5. 
   you just keep going and remember in your life that in the end they are really just people whom you know . someday you will have a quality friend you are looking for but right now it really does not matter its just one of those things. dont worry about it focus on family / friends later
6. 
   EASY, ACT LIKE THEY DON'T EXIST. GIVE IT RIGHT BACK. WATCH HOW QUICK THEY START TO NOTICE YOU THEN
7. 
   Do the same in return!!
   
   I have a couple of them! They were only nice to get the low down on my past and life. I guess because I haven't had a great one, I'm not good enough to flow in their circle.
   
   Who cares..........move on, ignore them too! They're not even worth our time.

I couldn't have agreed more to the above posts. If a friend ignores you,you just need to give them back that. Life is indeed very short to be around people who dont deserve you. You know yourself better than anybody else how good a person you are. If anyone else doesnt understand it by himself, you dont need to spoon-feed them. Remember those who actually love you would be there for you no matter what. The best example is your family who would never ever ignore you or go against you. It is indeed a tough job to find someone as real as you. So stop thinking about those who dont care and care for those who actually care! Dont screw up the other beautiful things in your life worrying about those who dont even bother to say hello to you. Maintain your own gravity and you will find then that these petty issues have stopped bothering you. The best thing to remember in these kind of situations when you feel extremely lonely is-" Even if you dont have anybody else with you,you have yourself who would never ever leave you." .    So in a way you are not alone. You have yourself ! :)

Bookoholic...are you??

I am a person who has developed this recent habit of reading books. I wasn't really a book-o-holic earlier but now I feel like reading every book I find. Bookstores according to my opinion are one of the best stress relievers. I genuinely love visiting bookstores. In fact, I can spend a whole day in a bookstore and I actually did it once! Bookstores can really do that magic on me. I just finished reading "The Diary of a young girl: Anne Frank" few days ago and I must say it is indeed one of those rare books which I would like to re-read. Having developed this reading habit, I actually realize now how a book can help a lonely man. Yea its true. One suddenly realizes after reading a good book that he is not the only one who thinks a certain way but there are other people too who have the same views as he has. And that's the point where he starts feeling the presence of a companion..intangible one though! Well, this is exactly what I feel after reading a good book. It feels the best when I am actually able to relate myself to the protagonist and so much so that I start wondering whether I was on the author's mind while he was writing the book. It definitely seems funny but that truly is the time when I feel that I am not only reading a book blandly but also enjoying it thoroughly. What is the use of doing something you don't love? This reminds of the hackneyed line- "Do what you love and love what you do!" . Don't read those novels which don't interest you. Read instead those which you think you will like and I bet you would enjoy reading it a thousand times more than the famous ones! That doesnt really mean that all famous books are dull but what I mean here is read those books which suits you. Books can make you know about things that you didn't have an iota of idea about before and can help you deal with your life in a much better way like you never could before! So stop reading this article and grab a book for yourself to experience what you haven't ever experienced before. :)

Miles to go before I sleep....

I have realised over these years that it is more important to have a few closed friends than a big friend circle. Well, I am an engineering student in my final year and these 4 years of college have made me realise my priorities in life. I was this little girl who couldnt even tie up the laces of her converse when i had gotten into my college. But every single thing changed gradually and it was so gradual that i didnt even realise when it happened. And now when I see myself, it just reminds me of the line- "miles to go before i sleep" . Life is indeed very very unpredictable. I had lots and lots of friends when I was a sophomore whom I considered as the ones i can always count on. But eventually i realised that God truly gives us the people we need and not the people we want. Those friends were the ones who made me stronger and independent. They were the ones who made me understand that a person doesnt really need "count-on-you" friends! Those who were there will be there for you and those who were not would never be for you. Secondly, those friends made me realise what trust truly is. I can now atleast understand who is pretending and who is not. It would be very cynical of me if I dont mention those who were really there for me throughout and even they made me learn wonderful things! And now I feel that there is something to learn from every single person around you. As all of you must be knowing, it is very hot in kolkata now and this afternoon when i was going to my college in a rickshaw, I felt the tinge more when i saw the rickshaw-wala sweating heavily and then I realised that the man works way harder than I do. He had no other option but to do his job under the scorching heat and he was doing it for 20 bucks. And i get 500 bucks from my dad each week without really doing anything but dozing off and watching tv at home. On reaching my classroom, I saw this highly qualified aged man teaching the class "biochemical engineering" and almost begging for few attentive ears. I was truly dazzled by his forbearance and patience. Does he really need those attentive ears? He doesnt. He already has enough dough. He could have very easily enjoyed holidaying now if he had wanted. But he didnt. Teaching is what he enjoys doing and thats the reason why he does it without really bothering about the hard work and money. So some do it for money while others do it for passion. But whatever the reason is, they all do it. Hats off to all those who believe that sincerety brings satisfaction at the end of the day.I have indeed miles to go before I sleep...

Confessions to Him

Dear Him,

Oh several times I've thought
to tell you how I feel,
but today is the chance I've got
to break that restrictive seal.

I wish I could tell you
how much you mean to me,
just like the sandy shore
which completes the sea.

Sometimes I wonder why do you care?
Or do I even deserve this share?
But all of those times you are there
to make me believe that everything is fair.

So today I would like to tell you that
its your support,care and affection
along with those bundles of laughter and chit-chat,
that has taken me a little closer to perfection.

Yours,
Her

I have a dream!

I have a dream,

A dream where we are together,

You and me …

in our world of love and laughter.

Our world though little

Seems heaven to me,

A utopian place it is for us

Just like the azure sky for the birds flying free.

Yes you are the one,

I feel at peace to be with.

And the one you are,

who can never care less not even a ton.

All I wish today is for the dream to come true,

The beautiful world of you and me could never be bidden adieu.

Perfectionist Aamir Khan…a little imperfect this time!

Well it all starts with “potty” in our very own dilli and hence the name DELHI-BELLY!! The movie revolves around the lives of three luchha Delhi guys.

• Tashi aka Imran Khan , a journalist by profession, is soon to tie the knot with his oh-so-hot girlfriend Soni aka Shenaz Treasury, whose hello tune surely doesn’t fail to reflect her bellyaching nature!;)
• Arun aka Vir Das aka “The Cartoonist” has nothing better to do than increasing the smile percentage of a banana (drawn by him) as per the orders given by his ban-gaali boss!
• Nitin aka Kunal Roy Kapoor is a serious loose motion se pereshan guy! Had he not been a photographer, he wd hv surely been the tees maar khan!

Soni gets the job of sending a dibba from a gora Vladmir to some Delhi-based gunde without actually knowing what’s inside the dibba! After this dibba reaches Tashi’s room, true shit starts happening! Serious loose-potty se pereshan Nitin ’s stool test bottle and the moolyawan dibba get exchanged, dibba pathological lab ke andar aur stool test bottle gunde ke ghar! The story simply narrates how the shit finally gets flushed out! But wait…should I take back the word “story”? Delhi-Belly doesn’t really have a story to narrate..kahani kehni thi toh kah di types! And is it truly capable of giving one a belly laugh??Nah…..gaalis can be fun to listen to .. but hasne haasane ke kuch aur tarike hote hai! An overall fun-to-watch movie but die-hard fans of Aamir Khan surely expect a lot more from him!!